The Severi degree is the degree of the Severi variety parametrizing plane curves of degree
d with
{\it\delta} nodes. Recently, Göttsche and Shende gave two refinements of Severi degrees, polynomials in a variable
y, which are conjecturally equal, for large
d. At
y=1, one of the refinements, the relative Severi degree, specializes to the (non-relative) Severi degree. We give a tropical description of the refined Severi degrees, in terms of a refined tropical curve count for all toric surfaces. We also refine the equivalent count of floor diagrams for Hirzebruch and rational ruled surfaces. Our description implies that, for fixed
{\it\delta}, the refined Severi degrees are polynomials in
d and
y, for large
d. As a consequence, we show that, for
{\it\delta}\leqslant 10 and all
d\geqslant {\it\delta}/2+1, both refinements of Göttsche and Shende agree and equal our refined counts of tropical curves and floor diagrams.